I just feel like a slave to my husbands child-support!

Hi. The slave part was a joke. I just feel like a slave to my husbands childsupport! Me and my husband have recently moved back to Ca to be closer to his kids. His ex is the typical stereotyped alienator and it has been very hard for him to keep contact with his girls living in another state. Also since the court base childsupport on visitaion we thought we could see the girls more and pay less childsupport.

I of course had to give up my job to move here so actually im just a unemployed somebody right now! I was working in the semiconductor field.. O did I mention my hubby pays 2000 a month in childsupport so his kids can get pedicures every month! And the tormentin his ex part is simple I torment her by just being alive and happy. She cant stand that he got remarried. Even though she also got remarried. I also have an ex hubby who pays me 200 a month in childsupport. And I fly the girls back to see him every two months. At my own expense because I feel guilty about taking them away from him so that my new hubby can hopefully bring his family back together.

I truly do not understand woman like my hubbys ex who can not be happy with there life unless there torturing someone else! BTW my hubby is a part of this club too his name is alan00038. Ok ive babbled enough about myself. Im sure you will be hearing from me everynow and then probably soon since my hubby is supposed to go back to court for contempt end of this month.

Bankruptcy Alternative: AKA Debt Settlement

Hi to all… I am somewhat a newbie here, but by no means a newbie to DEBT. My husband and myself had over $42,000 spread over 27 cards. We have been with a debt settlement company now for two years. So far so good. I have been hearing a lot about debt settlement companies going under lately and consumers losing out big time. To anyone considering this please check out the company by visiting the BBB site and seeing if they have any complaints pending against them. The rules vary from company to company. Some will only take cards that you owe $1,000 or more on while mine will accept balances as low as $500.

Most tho require you to be $10,000 in debt or greater before they will consider you and with no hope of ever catching up on the cards. I don’t know about others, but mine required me to write a letter stating why I was in so much debt, and what my monthly bills were…. and what I wanted my monthly payments set at, where as CCCS set the payments themselves.

What most people don’t know is that CCCS will show up on your credit record as a bankruptcy…. They aren’t gonna tell you this… naturally…. CCCS works FOR your creditors… the creditors pay them so much for handling your debt. I did read an article earlier this year where Cambridge went under. It was in Family Circle or Womans Day…. Back in Feburary I think. This is getting long so I will start another post…………..


Well here’s a true story for you:

A husband’s wife was having an affair on him (which he knew about) and they were getting ready to get a divorce.

After moving out of the house, he won the Lotto but didn’t say anything about it so the court set child support and all that good stuff on his present salary.

About 2 years later, this guy’s in a bar having another drink with some friends, and he starts to tell them how at least his ex-wife, the b**** who had an affair on him, wasn’t able to get his lotto money because he didn’t cash it in until later. Everyone asked questions and somehow, her name was divulged.

Well, a woman was sitting at another table near them and overheard the whole story, so she tracked down this guy’s ex-wife and told her everything. (I’m sure she got a commission on that little gossip!) The ex-wife went to court and guess what? his lotto winnings were taken into consideration and his child support was increased, etc.

Moral of the Story: If you are blessed enough to win the lotto after your spouse leaves you for another man: do NOT, repeat, do NOT, go near a bar!!!! LOL


What a wonderful club…

Hi, I’m a secondmom (stepmom) in Atlanta and my husband has been through hell and back with his manipulative and controlling ex-wife. Our relationship with his oldest son was completely severed because of her instigation, but I’m sure you guys all know what that’s about. I just became a member of this club and think it’s an excellent idea.

My husband doesn’t even know how to turn on a computer, but I’m going to encourage him to take a look at this. Anyway, I hope it’s not considered inappropriate, but I wanted to invite you guys to a chat we’re having at my club “The Stepmoms’ Club” tonight at 9:00 p.m.

The subject is “Husbands Intimidated By Their Ex-Wives.” I think that you guys will have a lot to contribute to that chat to other husbands who find it difficult to stand up to their ex-wives, as well as hear the new wife’s point of view on how frustrating it is to deal with.

Thanks! I look forward to chatting with you here!